2 Corinthians 1:3, 4
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
It is so difficult to know what to do with the emotions, the pain, of losing a loved one. Where do you put all the grief? Does time truly “heal” these wounds? What do you do with the ‘void’ of not seeing that person anymore here on earth? There is so much to learn from God’s words in scripture as He comforts, allows us to mourn; to grieve, and gently guides us to a rock of Refuge from the storm of emotions. He truly is all-knowing, all-compassionate, and all-comforting in every circumstance.
1. Live on with the legacy of that person.
Talk about the times you had together, the moments of gut-busting laughter, the moments of joy, the still, simple moments of just hearing them breathe, feeling their hugs, or kissing their cheek. Weeping is part of the process and is so important to allow yourself to do so. Think and share what you have learned, and even those serious, life-changing events shared with that person. Share pictures and the many, many memories of that person and what she brought to you. You may like to write these down, journal them, and pull that out in a time of deeply missing their presence.
2. Thank God for having that person in your life.
For however long, life is a gift. Let’s help each other celebrate the life before us, giving thanks to God for allowing us to be a part of it.. the good time, the hard times… the lessons learned from a life well-lived is a treasure far beyond any material thing.
3. Pass on the lessons, the joy, the “better you” because of that person.
We all have someone in whom we can ‘teach, encourage, or simply be a good example’ to. There are so many who need the comfort and wisdom of another to help them in times of sorrow. Guess what? WE can be that person. As the passage says…”so we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction…” There may be another who is searching for that very word of encouragement, that smile, that comforting touch, that gentle hug, or compassionate listener. We can do that… and I have know this to be true: ENCOURAGEMENT HEALS!
4. Use this time to witness and share with others the Hope we have in Christ.
Knowing that all of us must face Jesus someday, it is an urgent time to surrender to the Lordship of Christ, believing on Him alone for our salvation. What greater testimony for this loved one to leave, as others are accepting Christ upon them meeting Him? My prayer is that all the unsaved who even hear about me passing this earth will fall on their knees before our Redeemer, the Lover of our very souls… the One who is truly MIGHTY TO SAVE!
In this life, whether you believe in God, putting all your faith and trust in Him, or try to live life on your own strength, we all know that very quickly… we fail, we fall weak, trembling, and scared of ‘what may come.’
We all have to face death. In life, we face it head on when loved ones pass away. Someday, we have to face it ourselves, leaving others to grieve. What legacy will you leave? How will you griever?